So often, we become reactive when we’re living in the unknown.
The in-between, those spaces where clarity hasn’t yet arrived, can stir something deep in us. It’s in those moments that we reach for certainty. For answers. For something to hold.
These feelings trigger our anxiety.
And anxiety wants action.
It wants to resolve the discomfort, to fill the space, to control the outcome.
So we react.
We cling, trying to secure a connection, soothe the fear, and get ahead of the what-ifs.
Or we shut down, disengage, withdraw, and convince ourselves we don’t care.
Both responses serve a purpose.
Both are born from the same place: Preservation. Protection.
Because existing in the unknown never feels neutral.
It’s layered.
Layered with memory, with hope, with fear, with pattern.
But there’s another way.
Instead of reacting, we can choose to lead from love.
From the gentle whispers within.
From the part of us that stays open — even without proof.
From the inner knowing that nudges us forward, not with clarity, but with self-trust.
Love doesn’t rush.
It doesn’t grasp or perform.
It doesn’t need to fix discomfort to feel safe.
Love listens.
Love stays curious.
Love allows things to unfold, even in the quiet, even in the not-knowing.
So the next time the in-between stirs something in you, pause.
Feel the urge to react… and ask yourself:
Is this fear trying to protect me?
Or is this love leading me forward?
Then breathe.
And lead with love.
From the softness.
From the strength.
From the still part of you that knows you’re already enough.
Always,
Your Trusted Friend ❤
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