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Category: Love
The Stages of Love
Love, just like our own growth, evolves and matures over time. There is the honeymoon stage. This is the stage where everything seems perfect, carefree, and fun. You’re infatuated and smitten, and everything seems and feels perfect. When many people think about ‘falling in… Continue Reading “The Stages of Love”
Breathe and Decide
There are some words that just capture the things that matter so well. Like many things, media is a powerful tool that has the ability to give us a lens into ourselves… but it can also be used to manipulate and separate. It’s easy… Continue Reading “Breathe and Decide”
It’s Not Fine, But It’ll Be Okay
It’s not fine, but it’ll be okay. There was something so reassuring and affirming about hearing those words. Countless times throughout the day we are asked how we are and many of us respond automatically with those simple two words, “I’m fine.” Or, how… Continue Reading “It’s Not Fine, But It’ll Be Okay”
Landmines
If you don’t love yourself and feel wholly worthy as you are, this is the evidence. These are the landmines you’re planting your relationships. The doubts, the questioning, the need for validation, and for someone else to be responsible for your emotional regulation. I know, because I used to plant them and then be surprised when they would erupt in my face.
The Pull of Self Abandonment
Recently I reflected on what happens when you step outside of your comfort zones to change, grow, and bloom into something new. The external result of your internal changes may be to make others uncomfortable with the new and unfamiliar version of you. There… Continue Reading “The Pull of Self Abandonment”
Pattern Breaking
When you’re able to truly tap into your own desires, wants, and power it can initially feel uncomfortable, selfish, and can be laden in guilt. At least, this is how it is feeling for me. So many of my patterns involve me considering and… Continue Reading “Pattern Breaking”
How We heal
Ignoring a broken bone doesn’t fix it.
If left untreated the problem only gets worse and leads to complications and more pain and suffering.
The same is true of our internal injuries.
Tend them as tenderly, if not more so, than a broken bone.
Perhaps, like a broken bone, if given this intentional space the heart can heal just as strong – if not more so – as before the breaking?
Self Worth
I have placed my self worth, like a gift, into the hands of others assuming that if someone else found me desirable, lovable, admirable, and attractive then that must be true.
Almost and Just About
Stop settling, friend. Stop settling for almost, just about, close enough, and what ifs. Stop shoving your dreams, wishes, desires, and needs aside for something that leaves you yearning and desiring more. For something that doesn’t quite scratch the itch because you’re afraid that… Continue Reading “Almost and Just About”
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