If you don’t love yourself and feel wholly worthy as you are, this is the evidence. These are the landmines you’re planting your relationships. The doubts, the questioning, the need for validation, and for someone else to be responsible for your emotional regulation. I know, because I used to plant them and then be surprised when they would erupt in my face.
Recently I reflected on what happens when you step outside of your comfort zones to change, grow, and bloom into something new. The external result of your internal changes may be to make others uncomfortable with the new and unfamiliar version of you. There… Continue Reading “The Pull of Self Abandonment”
If you wish to earn her,
You must meet her.
Find her soul and capture her there.
When you’re able to truly tap into your own desires, wants, and power it can initially feel uncomfortable, selfish, and can be laden in guilt. At least, this is how it is feeling for me. So many of my patterns involve me considering and… Continue Reading “Pattern Breaking”
Ignoring a broken bone doesn’t fix it.
If left untreated the problem only gets worse and leads to complications and more pain and suffering.
The same is true of our internal injuries.
Tend them as tenderly, if not more so, than a broken bone.
Perhaps, like a broken bone, if given this intentional space the heart can heal just as strong – if not more so – as before the breaking?
I have placed my self worth, like a gift, into the hands of others assuming that if someone else found me desirable, lovable, admirable, and attractive then that must be true.
Stop settling, friend. Stop settling for almost, just about, close enough, and what ifs. Stop shoving your dreams, wishes, desires, and needs aside for something that leaves you yearning and desiring more. For something that doesn’t quite scratch the itch because you’re afraid that… Continue Reading “Almost and Just About”
We all crave intimacy, and yet it’s the scariest thing in the world to receive for it requires vulnerability. Vulnerability — my friend — demands that we give up control. It means that we allow ourselves the space to be raw and open.
We are groomed to accept toxic love. Perhaps this started with the story of Romeo and Juliet, star-crossed lovers who were doomed to death at the onset? For whatever reason, the stories we tell and are attracted to affirm these types of love stories.… Continue Reading “Toxic Love”
Life changes. Sometimes you rail against these changes, denying them and fighting them. Trying to bargain and trade to get back whatever it is you’ve lost. I have found myself in this space. Begging for second chances, swearing I’ll change myself to fit a… Continue Reading “The Space Left Behind”