Toxic Love

Five years ago, I wrote about something I still believe:

We are often taught to mistake intensity for love.

The relationships we romanticize in books, movies, and songs are often marked by longing, chaos, uncertainty, and suffering. We learn that butterflies, anxiety, and emotional highs and lows are signs of passion.

Also, thank you to my bestie for letting me know this morning that those butterflies may actually be a superpower, as in the ability to spot avoidants from a mile away.

But what if real love isn’t supposed to feel like a battlefield?

What if the healthiest relationships are the ones that bring peace, safety, growth, and room to be yourself?

Rereading this piece today, I find myself nodding along with my younger self.

Some lessons are worth repeating.

Always,
Your Trusted Friend ♥

Toxic Love