Many people, when asked about the moments that had the greatest singular impact on their lives, will talk about the most difficult situations. Those situations required us to unearth strength and stamina we hadn't tapped before. They are the junctures that swept away our settled plans, threw us off course, and compelled us to begin… Continue reading Pushed to Bloom
For the last several years I've felt like the universe has had a giant hand behind me, flicking away any potential suitors that arrive within my sphere. Those elusive people who not only like me, but pique my interest as well, have shown up in my periphery to tease me with qualities, traits, and a… Continue reading Answer the Phone
Why does the brain remember a ten-year-old workplace mortification in perfect detail, but let the sweet, quiet archives of a lifelong friendship blur at the edges? A rattling bathroom door handle sends me down the rabbit hole of how our minds catalog the moments that make us.
This is a question that occasionally wanders into the quiet corridors of my thoughts: Am I truly healed, or are my wounds just comfortably dormant? There is a certain kind of peace that comes with being alone. When no one is disappointing you, misunderstanding you, asking anything of you, or touching the places that still… Continue reading The Feeling is Real. The Story May Not Be.
When I revisit old writing, it’s like unearthing a time capsule. It has been a while since I last reflected on my gap-toothed smile and the little girl who thought she needed to fix it. My front gap was once large enough to fit a nickel and a dime pressed together. I know this because… Continue reading The Time Capsule: My Gap-Toothed Smile
I'm realizing how many preconceived ideas I have about relationships as I navigate dating again. For example, in my early dating experiences through my 30s, when I would meet someone where 'sparks' happened, there was always this almost instantaneous relationship that formed. Two people met who 'clicked', kissed, and looked for every opportunity to spend… Continue reading Dating After 40: Learning to Love the Space
Relationships can be minefields. As every one of us is a unique individual, it can be difficult to truly understand the people around us. Their views can be so drastically different from our own as to be incomprehensible. This isn’t necessarily wrong or bad. It’s just that we’re standing and looking a different way, seeing… Continue reading Relationship Minefields
Our mind is a powerful tool. We can sit and ponder the intricacies of the universe, the inner workings of the human heart, and the deeper meaning of life itself. We can imagine. Create. Solve. Understand. We can use our minds to make meaning of this strange and beautiful experience of being human. More often,… Continue reading Getting Out of My Head
I have two crushes. I almost feel like a teenager again. I was a very boy-crazy teen. Well, and of course there has been my adoration of Alyssa Milano. And now, here I am, 48, with crushes on two men. Not one man I’m trying to determine whether I like. Not one potential relationship I’m… Continue reading I Have Two Crushes and I’m Not Choosing Yet
I’m sitting in this space of discomfort. Those early, early moments of dating when you’ve met someone who piques your interest and there is this moment where you think… This could be something. I have not sat in this space for a very long time. It’s been three years since I dated anyone seriously. While… Continue reading My Crush
