We all crave intimacy, and yet it’s the scariest thing in the world to receive for it requires vulnerability. Vulnerability — my friend — demands that we give up control. It means that we allow ourselves the space to be raw and open.
Emotional exposure is terrifying. I can’t be the only one that does everything in my power to attempt to control it? To refine, diminish, and play small in order to avoid potential pain In order to regulate vulnerability? Something wonderful comes into my life… Continue Reading “Emotional Exposure”
One of the most basic needs we have as human beings is connection. We want to know and be known. Not just for how we make others feel, but for who we are – deep inside.
Friend, relationships are difficult. They require work, whether that is picking up the phone to chat, planning and spending time together, or settling in to have the hard conversations… …they, relationships, require effort. Additionally, we all have triggers, pasts, and ‘imperfections’. The closer you… Continue Reading “Face the Bear”
Triggers are a tricky thing, my friend, and we seem to collect quite a bit of them over the course of living life. By the time we get through childhood, which I believe lasts well into most people’s twenties, we’ve suffered wounding. Wounds, that… Continue Reading “Trigger Warning”
The dating power struggle… this is the struggle that occurs when one or the other person within the dating dynamic feels that they have to give up some of their power by doing a ‘major first’. A major first – in essence – is an act that reveals the hand a person holds and exposes a little bit of the ol’ heart, thus making one person in the due vulnerable. These firsts could take the guise of asking someone out, initiating the first kiss, saying the first I love you, or a multitude of things in between.