The Clever Confidante
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Tag: boundaries
It’s Not Fine, But It’ll Be Okay
It’s not fine, but it’ll be okay. There was something so reassuring and affirming about hearing those words. Countless times throughout the day we are asked how we are and many of us respond automatically with those simple two words, “I’m fine.” Or, how… Continue Reading “It’s Not Fine, But It’ll Be Okay”
Strength in Weakness
For me, it’s the ability to look at my faults, flaws, and areas in which I require and want to grow and actively look for ways in which to improve.
Thought Distortion
It is time to commit to asking for what I want, speaking my needs, and drawing clear boundaries while ignoring the distortions caused by fears, insecurities, and the stories that have held me back.
The Owner’s Manual
There is so much power in establishing and maintaining boundaries. As a caretaker and someone who strives to see other’s perspectives I have allowed my boundaries to be crossed, erased, adjusted, and manipulated. Being a nice, compassionate person it often felt difficult to maintain… Continue Reading “The Owner’s Manual”
The Giver and the Caretaker
Friend, there are those people who are always looking out for others – taking care of the needs, wants, and desires of those around them. These are the people that when you make it to the gas station on fumes and empty pockets, meet you there, no questions asked, and fill your tank.
Choose
We, friend, have a responsibility to teach people what is and is not acceptable. We have a responsibility take care of ourselves first. It is okay for us to have wants and needs, and for us to express these things out loud. It all comes down to what we believe we are worthy of, and what we choose to allow or permit.
Draw the Damn Boundaries
If someone hurts me, takes advantage of me, takes me for granted, is insensitive, rude, or fails to value me, it is my responsibility to speak up. Space in my life is valuable, and if you want to occupy a portion of that space you better rise the f*ck up, because I no longer have time, energy, or f*cks to waste on takers, manipulators, or liars. If showing you my boundary freaks you out or makes you feel I am demanding or needy – there is the damn door.
Me
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