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Hard to Love

Posted on June 13, 2019 by

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I sat across from a woman as she told me that she was hard to love. There were a litany of reasons, and she listed them all. She suffered from mood swings, was damaged and easily triggered, has ‘issues’, is crazy, overreacts and over-thinks, and is riddled by insecurities.

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Happiness Suckers

Posted on April 23, 2019 by

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We’ve all known the happiness suckers, and even had them occupy spaces of importance within our lives. I once dated a man for a year that I would label as the epitome of a happiness sucker. Nothing in his life seemed to make him happy. His personal mantra was, “If only I had this ______, I’d be happy.” Needless to say, he’d get that — whatever that was — but his happiness would be short lived and he’d be right back to where he started.

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So, The Captain words this much more to the point then I was, but he’s right. • We have an opportunity to delve deep, to reflect, to renew. That’s what the growth mindset is all about, our ability to take all circumstances - like this crap situation - and see it as an opportunity, a challenge. • How will you face this challenge? Will you see yourself as a victim of your circumstances? Complain? Attack? Stagnant? • Or, friend, will you see yourself as a survivor? Will you let this reshape you? Empower? Challenge? Grow? • This is a unique situation, as all of us collectively are facing the same obstacle. So, it’s going to really reveal who each of us are, and what we are capable of as individuals as well as together. • You decide. • Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️
{N E W B L O G P O S T} With everything comes opportunity. • I keep asking myself what the lesson is from the current obstacles we are facing, for I find that in all things there is always an opportunity for growth. • So, how can we grow, adapt, and change from where we now find ourselves? • We most certainly cannot change it, but how can we change? In what ways can we be shaped, and who will we decide to be as a result? • Will we choose to be a victim or a survivor? • Will we look for ways in which we can adapt, or will we allow ourselves to become overwhelmed by anxiety and hopelessness? • It’s okay to feel all the feels, but it’s not okay to stay stuck. At some point we need to stand up, dust off, and say I’m ready for what’s next. • We are strong, resilient, creative, and bold. Let’s shock the shit out of ourselves by just how well we persist. • Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️ https://thecleverconfidante.com/2020/03/23/growth-mindset/
{N E W B L O G P O S T} https://thecleverconfidante.com/2020/03/19/stay-grounded/ I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling all the feels - and not all of them Are mine. • I’ve had days where I feel so overwhelmed with sadness that I can’t stop the fall of tears. • However, not all of these emotions are mine. It is the overwhelming energy of all the people around me. • It’s important that we get in our feels, observe the emotions. Take stock of what it is we’re feeling and then - this is the important part - decide what to do with them. • For if we don’t consciously observe our emotions we do have the ability to act like beasts. • To allow anger, resentment, jealousy, sadness... any emotional we are capable of feeling... to leak out in unintended ways. • Yelling at a friend, flipping off another driver in traffic, punching a wall, slamming a door... • Instead, when you take the time to observe the feeling, allowing yourself to actually feel it - not judging it good or bad - you can then see why you feel this way, and consciously decide what to do in response. • Emotions are neither good or bad. They serve as signals to check in... • So check in. • Then let it go. • Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️
Friend, in all let us practice love. Love should be the motivation for all that we do. • I know that there are so many other emotions brewing. • Fear, trepidation, uncertainty... • But in this let us choose love. • Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️
{N E W B L O G P O S T} • https://thecleverconfidante.com/2020/03/14/in-this-together/ • I have felt all the feels the past couple of days; fear, frustration, isolation, loneliness, love, and hope. • One thought that keeps reverberating through my mind like a drum is; • What is the lesson going to be? What is it that we, and I, am meant to learn? • I keep coming back again and again to the importance of us banding together as a community, the importance of us extending love, grace, kindness, understanding, compassion and grace for the people we share this planet with. • So often we start to feel like we are the kings and queens of our own little bubble and space. We’ve been taught to look out for number one at all costs. • This mentality isn’t going to fly right now. • If anything we need to come together in solidarity, to look out for everyone, particularly to the weakest of us. • We need to see this as an opportunity to learn and grow, to revise how we see and view one another and our social networks. • We are capable of greatness if we all band together and work together for the common greater good for we are one all together. • Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️
{N E W B L O G P O S T} https://thecleverconfidante.com/2020/03/01/letting-ourselves-down/ There are so many ways in which we let ourselves down. • As of late I’ve been pondering one of the major ways we settle, and that’s when we don’t get clear about what it is that we want. • When we don’t stop to evaluate our desires we cannot set clear intentions, nor is there any way I’m which we can invite the very things into our lives that we want. • So, we end up letting ourselves down. • We end up settling. • So, instead, let’s be intentional. Let’s decided what we want, and let’s work towards and expect only the things that set us on fire. • Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️