Stop settling, friend. Stop settling for almost, just about, close enough, and what ifs. Stop shoving your dreams, wishes, desires, and needs aside for something that leaves you yearning and desiring more. For something that doesn’t quite scratch the itch because you’re afraid that… Continue Reading “Almost and Just About”
One of the most basic needs we have as human beings is connection. We want to know and be known. Not just for how we make others feel, but for who we are – deep inside.
Instead of seeing others outside your path as potential teachers and eye openers, they are often looked at with skepticism and judgement. We develop an us/them mentality, labeling them as ‘other’. The side effects of this us/them mentality is that it gets converted into the idea of good versus bad, right versus wrong, the hero versus the villain.
Friend, relationships are difficult. They require work, whether that is picking up the phone to chat, planning and spending time together, or settling in to have the hard conversations… …they, relationships, require effort. Additionally, we all have triggers, pasts, and ‘imperfections’. The closer you… Continue Reading “Face the Bear”
I sat across from a woman as she told me that she was hard to love. There were a litany of reasons, and she listed them all. She suffered from mood swings, was damaged and easily triggered, has ‘issues’, is crazy, overreacts and over-thinks, and is riddled by insecurities.
We’ve all known the happiness suckers, and even had them occupy spaces of importance within our lives. I once dated a man for a year that I would label as the epitome of a happiness sucker. Nothing in his life seemed to make him happy. His personal mantra was, “If only I had this ______, I’d be happy.” Needless to say, he’d get that — whatever that was — but his happiness would be short lived and he’d be right back to where he started.