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July 29, 2019Happiness, Life

Joy in Uncertainty

Friend, choose to find joy in uncertainty – in the unknown, anxious, scary, frightening moments. The ones in which you’re uncertain how it will all end up choose to find joy.

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{N E W B L O G P O S T} Friend, how often do we grasp hold of fear and let it disrupt our goals, our plans, our ideas of who we are and what we want? I know I’ve let ‘what if?’ thoughts make there way into my mind, let them take hold and run rampant often derailing me from whatever it was that I was perusing. New things are scary, whatever that ‘new’ is. New often lurks outside of our comfort zones, outside of what we’ve established as comfortable and known. However, new invites us to expand and grow. with expansion and growth we do risk failing and stumbling. With this risk lies discomfort and insecurity. It’s all a process, friend, all of it... at some point we learn that we need to let go of the fear, and - instead - grab hold of the goals, the plans, the ideas of who we are and what we want instead. Those are the things that matter. Fear is okay, but we cannot hold onto it or it’ll prevent us from holding what matters. Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️ • https://thecleverconfidante.com/2019/08/14/let-go-hold-on/

{N E W B L O G P O S T} Friend, I have permitted people to treat me horrible ways by not speaking up for myself. By not drawing clear boundaries when someone treated me in a way I didn’t like, or was undeserved. Fear held me back. Fear of abandonment, fear of being perceived as needy, fear of being seen as unsympathetic... So much fear kept me from using my voice, speaking up, and taking care of myself. I urge you, friends, determine your boundaries. Erect the borders. And protect them. This is no way means to close yourself off from others. Instead, it shows people your worth. It shows how you wish to be treated. It allows you to maintain your emotional and mental health. If you disrespect, undervalue, Do not appreciate, take advantage or ignore me, Friend, I will let you know. Each of us matters. It has been easy in the past for me to place the needs of others above my own, to my own detriment. No more, friend, no more. Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️

Friend, I’ve been pondering this post for awhile, as I’ve found myself in continual places of uncertainty. Those that know me, know that I like to plan. I enjoy knowing what to expect and having a picture in my mind of what the future holds. I love secure relationships in which I am certain of the expectations placed upon both of us. Starting a new activity, job, hobby, experience comes with a lot of anxiety and nervous tension, for it is the unknown. My goal in these moments has been to embrace this as an expected period in my life. We will all have to continually step out of our comfort zones and make changes that, at first, invite discomfort and anxiety. In these moments I am consciously choosing to find joy. To revel in the newness. To embrace this fleeting period. For, it is temporary. I have faith in myself and my ability to navigate this period and to - eventually - find comfort, safety, and security. And in that I will also choose to find joy. Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️

{N E W B L O G P O S T} Friend, it matters how we treat others, particularly those we claim to care about. Our effort, our time, our words, our actions, and even our thoughts matter. • This past weekend I observed an older couple that I couldn’t take my eyes off. They were clearly very much in love and it made me wonder what magic they had to sustain what, by outside appearances, looked like genuine love and enjoyment of one another. • You could see it in the way she leaned so naturally into him, and the way that their hands touched. It was endearing and entrancing. • It reminded me of the type or relationship we should all be striving for... instead of settling because we are afraid of being lonely or alone. • Instead, wait. • Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️ • • https://thecleverconfidante.com/2019/07/16/a-forever-love/

{N E W B L O G P O S T} Friend, we can become lost in our grief and heartbreak. There are times we can become so broken we can doubt our ability to navigate through hurt. • In these moments it is so important to have faith that there is always a way through the pain. Some pain will never go away, but you will learn a new way to live - with it - and you will be able find your own strength and rediscover joy. • Please know, Friend, that while there might not seem like a rational reason for whatever ills have befallen you, there can be a lesson. • Perhaps that lesson is to show you how to appreciate each moment as a gift, maybe it’s to show you your own inner strength, or perhaps it’s to reveal to you just how incredible the people who surround you are. • Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️

{N E W B L O G P O S T} Friend, how often do we spend time waiting on others? I’ve met so many people who embody immeasurable potential... and I waited. • I waited to be seen, appreciated, and loved. I waited for someone to show up, to be ‘ready’. I’ve spent so much time putting myself on hold, as I waited on someone else. • Friend, don’t wait like this. People show you who they are and what they are capable of. Believe them. • Instead of putting yourself on hold while you wait for someone to love as much as you do, give as much as you do... to choose you. Love yourself. Give to yourself... and hold out, wait, for people to arrive who match you. People who inspire you. Cherish you. Love and see you. • You, Friend, deserve all the things... allow them to come to you and choose to invest in the people that arrive fully. People you don’t have to wait on. • Always, Your Trusted Friend ❤️

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