Day Four: What did you need as a child that you didn’t receive?
Knowing what you didn’t receive as a child that you needed is essential for understanding your past, healing emotional wounds, and fostering personal growth. It empowers you to break free from limiting patterns and create a more fulfilling and authentic life aligned with your true needs and values. It also allows you to give to yourself what you didn’t receive.
To ‘reparent’ yourself, so to speak.
Growing up, I felt immense pressure to succeed, which made it difficult for me to accept failure or ask for help. This pressure came from both internal expectations and external influences, including my family’s emphasis on achievement, doing your best, and showing up as your very best when you committed to something. No excuses.
In college, I struggled to reach out for assistance, as I had never learned how to ask for or receive help. When I finally gathered the courage to seek financial support from my parents to take a summer class needed to finish my degree, I was met with disappointment. They said no, criticizing me for not planning better.
This experience reinforced my belief that I should handle everything on my own and that asking for help was a sign of weakness and a failure on my part. It left me feeling even more isolated and hesitant to reach out for support in the future.
Reparenting myself has been a journey of unlearning these ingrained beliefs and cultivating self-compassion. It involves acknowledging my needs, embracing vulnerability, and learning to validate myself, even in the absence of external validation.
I’ve been working on breaking free from the cycle of self-reliance and on accepting that it’s okay to ask for help. It’s about nurturing my own well-being with support from others.
Always,
Your Trusted Friend 💀
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