Day Twenty-Two: Write about a time that you felt deeply wronged.
Anger disrupts our inner peace, signaling an immediate need for response by triggering fight, flight, freeze, or fawn reactions. When we experience anger, our brain perceives a threat, activating the sympathetic nervous system. However, many struggle to navigate anger effectively, failing to discern between real and perceived threats, and are unable to regulate their own nervous system.
Like any emotion, anger is a tool to protect and care for us. By identifying the root causes of our anger triggers, such as past experiences of feeling deeply wronged, we can learn to avoid explosive reactions and regretful actions or words. This process empowers us to soothe and regulate our emotions, facilitating a smoother return to inner peace.
There was a time when I felt deeply wronged by someone I trusted. Their actions cut deep, leaving me feeling betrayed and hurt. In the heat of the moment, anger consumed me, clouding my judgment and fueling a desire to cut off the relationship entirely.
Holding onto anger only perpetuated my suffering. It was like carrying a heavy burden that weighed me down and prevented me from moving forward. As I reflected on the situation, I realized that my anger was rooted in a sense of injustice and a need for validation. I desired to be supported, encouraged, and seen. Knowing the root of this anger, I could address it and not hold onto it.
Recognizing this allowed me to address the underlying emotions driving my anger. Instead of reacting impulsively or shutting down the relationship, I paused and reflected on what I truly needed. I navigated the situation honestly and authentically by acknowledging and addressing these deeper needs.
Rather than allowing anger to dictate my actions, I was able to confront my bigger emotions and communicate my needs effectively. This shift in perspective empowered me to engage in healthier, more constructive ways of addressing conflict and resolving issues in my relationships.
Anger is an uncomfortable emotion for me. In the past, it has resulted in ending or limiting relationships instead of confronting my bigger emotions. Instead of embracing the discomfort and exploring its root cause, I’ve stuffed down and repressed my anger. Acknowledging it as a signal that something needs my attention and care is a much healthier response and allows healing to take place.
Always,
Your Trusted Friend 💀
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