From Heartbreak to Self-Growth

Recently I ran across a quote that said, “Growth begins when we start accepting ourselves.”

This was powerful for me.

Those that know me well, know that I have experienced almost every form of heartbreak and disappointment.

While it’s tempting to adopt a victim mentality, attributing life’s setbacks to uncontrollable external factors, I’ve realized the importance of acknowledging our own choices.

Accepting both our triumphs and mistakes, our light and our shadow, is the cornerstone of authentic self-growth.

For instance, many challenges I’ve faced stem from self-doubt, from underestimating my worth and silencing my inner wisdom. By sidelining my inherent abilities and talents, I often settled for less than I deserved.

I’ve sold myself short

Life is not devoid of heartbreak, devastation, or disappointments. However, life’s adversities aren’t merely external obstacles; they are lessons teaching us to trust our inner wisdom and overcome fear.

Such as the fear that if we don’t grasp what is currently in our reach then we will miss out.

A recurring pattern I’ve observed in my life is the tendency to cling to what is familiar, known, and immediately before me, driven by the fear of missing out.

Maybe I am the only one, though?

I sit and I reflect.

I meditate and I write.

Writing gives me a space to organize and make sense of the lessons I’ve had the fortune of learning through living life. It’s where I’ve decoded life’s lessons, like understanding how my choices influenced my experiences and contributed to the times that I have been hurt.

Once I recognized this I could make better choices and decisions.

I don’t grasp for low hanging fruit anymore. I reach higher, driven by the understanding of my role and agency in shaping my destiny.