It's not fine, but it'll be okay. There was something so reassuring and affirming about hearing those words. Countless times throughout the day we are asked how we are and many of us respond automatically with those simple two words, "I'm fine." Or, how many times have we been treated in ways that are the… Continue reading It’s Not Fine, But It’ll Be Okay
When I was little I had a gap in my two front teeth. It was large enough to fit a nickel and a dime pressed together perfectly. I know this because a friend handed me a nickel and asked if it would fit between my teeth. When it did easily she scoured her pockets for… Continue reading My Gap-Toothed Smile
If you don't love yourself and feel wholly worthy as you are, this is the evidence. These are the landmines you're planting your relationships. The doubts, the questioning, the need for validation, and for someone else to be responsible for your emotional regulation. I know, because I used to plant them and then be surprised when they would erupt in my face.
"Dressing 'Single'" Recently I reflected on what happens when you step outside of your comfort zones to change, grow, and bloom into something new. The external result of your internal changes may be to make others uncomfortable with the new and unfamiliar version of you. There will be those that cannot continue on a mutual… Continue reading The Pull of Self Abandonment
Photo by Christopher Windus on Unsplash Of the 95% of people who believe that they are self-aware, only 10% of people actually are. On my own journey of wellness, introspection, and self-awareness I remember hearing this quote by Tasha Eurich in a TED talk. Her findings came down to one very important distinction between those who really were… Continue reading The Mind Trap
If you wish to earn her, You must meet her. Find her soul and capture her there.
When you're able to truly tap into your own desires, wants, and power it can initially feel uncomfortable, selfish, and can be laden in guilt. At least, this is how it is feeling for me. So many of my patterns involve me considering and putting others' thoughts, feelings, and desires ahead of my own, so… Continue reading Pattern Breaking
Ignoring a broken bone doesn't fix it. If left untreated the problem only gets worse and leads to complications and more pain and suffering. The same is true of our internal injuries. Tend them as tenderly, if not more so, than a broken bone. Perhaps, like a broken bone, if given this intentional space the heart can heal just as strong - if not more so - as before the breaking?
Photo by Boram Kim on Unsplash What are you looking for, friend? Are you looking at the world for ways that it can bring you joy, love, satisfaction, and adventure... or are you looking for the ways in which the world can hurt, betray, disappoint, and let you down? Here is a tip, friend: You… Continue reading Future-Tripping
Photo by Ray Hennessy on Unsplash Have you committed to perpetual growth, friend? The kind that has you striving for the kind of evolution that requires shedding again, and again, and again. A commitment to growth can come at a price, however. There will be people who cannot or will not grow with you. People who are stuck… Continue reading Brand New
