Unsure in Love

Relationships, at times, can be mysteries. Especially when they seem “right” but there is an underlying feeling of unease.

From my journey, I’ve realized the importance of acknowledging our feelings, even when we can’t readily voice or articulate them. A relationship may tick all the right boxes, yet if there’s an unspoken need to constantly guard oneself, it might be worth thinking about why.

In my own experience with a kind, compassionate, and giving partner, I often felt self-conscious.

Not because of my own self-worth, but due to the overwhelming need to be cautious about their triggers and insecurities, and as a result I felt trapped within a pantomime.

It was like dancing on a delicate sheet of ice, fearing the cracks below.

Here’s a universal takeaway: Genuine relationships should provide a sanctuary, a place where we can freely express ourselves and be our most authentic selves without the constant worry of causing an unintended upheaval.

If we find ourselves constantly filtering our actions or words, it might be a sign that, while there are genuine feelings, the foundation might not be as strong as we hope.

While the decision to part ways with someone caring, especially if they’ve faced prior heartaches, is immensely challenging, relationships are a two-way street.

Staying out of guilt or pity often does more harm than good, to both parties involved.

It was incredibly difficult for me to leave this ill-fitting relationship because they were a tender-souled person and I feared hurting them and being a source of pain and disappointment when they’d already suffered so much.

However, leaving was clearly the right thing to do, for both of us. For me, because I couldn’t imagine myself continuing to feel trapped within a relationship where I couldn’t be myself, and them because my authentic self wasn’t providing the safety they needed.

For all of us, the lesson is clear: We deserve relationships where both partners enthusiastically say “yes” to each other, not just in words, but in spirit.

Recognizing when a bond isn’t mutually beneficial and bravely choosing to let go opens up new possibilities and the potentiality of finding spaces where we can not only be our truest selves, but are encouraged to blossom and grow in that expression without reservations or self-doubt.

Not just for ourselves, but also for our partners, allowing both to seek connections that truly resonate and enrich.

Always,

Your Trusted Friend ♥