Recently, I went on a date that didn’t quite spark. We gathered to enjoy live music, a backdrop of vibrant energy and rhythm. It was probably one of the most beautiful dates I've ever been on. The audience sat amidst the blooming flowers on a flower farm, the folk singer and her guitar on the… Continue reading Dating Disappointments: Embracing Rejection
Dating can create power struggles, and the so-called experts who give advice make this landscape even more confusing. You're supposed to be mysterious but not too mysterious. Show interest without seeming desperate. Be available without appearing needy. Be confident without being arrogant. And on and on it goes. Don't show your hand too soon, talk… Continue reading Power Struggles in Dating
The dating power struggle... this is the struggle that occurs when one or the other person within the dating dynamic feels that they have to give up some of their power by doing a 'major first'. A major first - in essence - is an act that reveals the hand a person holds and exposes a little bit of the ol' heart, thus making one person in the due vulnerable. These firsts could take the guise of asking someone out, initiating the first kiss, saying the first I love you, or a multitude of things in between.
