"Dressing 'Single'" Recently I reflected on what happens when you step outside of your comfort zones to change, grow, and bloom into something new. The external result of your internal changes may be to make others uncomfortable with the new and unfamiliar version of you. There will be those that cannot continue on a mutual… Continue reading The Pull of Self Abandonment
So much time is devoted to attempting to view ourselves through the lens of other people's perceptions, followed by hacking off pieces of ourselves to squeeze into a box we think others have ascribed to us. We try to be what and who we believe others want us to be. Performing gymnastics to be some… Continue reading Perceived Perceptions
We want to be chosen. To have someone who loves us as we are, has seen the flaws and weaknesses, and wants us because these nuances are part of what make us beautiful, and wonderful and delightful. To truly have someone see all the parts that make us uniquely us. To take the time to peal back the layers and say yes.
Friend, first, it is important for me to explain the apology that, I sincerely believe, is a curse is the unnecessary one. For example, you laugh too loud at a joke that only you seem to get. I’m sorry, you say. You get lost in thought, only to realize that you’re staring at a stranger. I’m sorry, you say. You get ‘too’ excited about something you’re passionate about. I'm sorry, you say. Our days are filled with these unnecessary apologies. The ones that suggest that there is some part of you for which you need to apologize.
Whatever that special ability some girls have to be mysterious and elusive as they engage in conversation with men, I don’t have that. Instead I say men’s names 10 times, laugh too loud, and — probably — ask all the wrong questions.
Friend, at some point in time we are taught to care what others think of us. Do you remember your silly childhood antics? The way you would play without care or constraint? I do. I have fond memories of rollerskating up and down my driveway with the lyrics of Milli Vanilli's 'Blame it on the… Continue reading Let’s Play
