I have placed my self worth, like a gift, into the hands of others assuming that if someone else found me desirable, lovable, admirable, and attractive then that must be true.
When we first set out on a goal we are gung ho, overly enthusiastic and full of energy. This is certainly true when we first pen our New Year’s Resolutions. Setting out our goals and intentions for the year of all the things we… Continue Reading “And Cheesecake”
Don’t turn those people meant to be in your life to teach you a lesson turn into a lifetime.
Often, however, we see our emotions as triggers and – instead of pausing to look under the hood and taking the opportunity to delve deeper – we become reactionary, defensive, and/or avoidant.
Life has a way of engulfing and overwhelming us – but if you have learned to trust yourself and who you are, THAT – my friend – is your life preserver.
Who has society told you to be, friend? Has it whispered lies to you, forcing you to take a form that isn’t quite right, making you feel you’re supposed to play a role that isn’t meant for you? Have you sawed off the bits… Continue Reading “The Roles We Play”
Ever since my divorce at 29, after a very short lived three year marriage, I have struggled to find love…not because it hasn’t been there, but because I have not felt worthy. When you don’t feel worthy of love, and yet you’re out on… Continue Reading “The Realities We Create”
Hungry people make poor shoppers… the same is true when we are hungry for love and approval.
It is so easy to get lost in comfort.
To let the ease of a person, situation, or place lure us into a false sense of security and distract us from what it is we really want, where it is we are really going.
If someone hurts me, takes advantage of me, takes me for granted, is insensitive, rude, or fails to value me, it is my responsibility to speak up. Space in my life is valuable, and if you want to occupy a portion of that space you better rise the f*ck up, because I no longer have time, energy, or f*cks to waste on takers, manipulators, or liars. If showing you my boundary freaks you out or makes you feel I am demanding or needy – there is the damn door.