Friend, when we are heartbroken or disappointed, or in anyway feel damage emotionally, we move forward and will take any stride to protect against similar and further damage. This to me reminds me of when we suffer a physical injury, such as a broken arm. We take the time to heal to immobilize the bone so that the bone can heal.
Triggers are a tricky thing, my friend, and we seem to collect quite a bit of them over the course of living life. By the time we get through childhood, which I believe lasts well into most people's twenties, we've suffered wounding. Wounds, that when revisited, result in being triggered. Maybe you've been abandoned by… Continue reading Trigger Warning
Friend, most of the time we’re merely broken people, stumbling around breaking other people. We are careless with our words, our actions, and our deeds. Seldom taking notice of what matters, what is important, and what could make us whole until after we’ve destroyed it.
...patterns, routines and schedules can be detrimental. Sometimes we start to live as if we're sleepwalking brainless zombies, merely going through the motions, but not really taking part in our lives. Then there are the patterns, friend, that reveal to us our wounds in need of healing.
Maybe I speak too boldly, assuming others suffer from the same debilitating fear that I do, but I don't think so... and if this resonates with you at all, friend, I invite you to let go with me. Let go of the fear, the worry, the anxiety and insecurity. Let go of the doubt, the uncertainty, the hesitation, and anything that holds you back and prevents you from grabbing hold off whatever it is you are afraid to grasp.
If someone hurts me, takes advantage of me, takes me for granted, is insensitive, rude, or fails to value me, it is my responsibility to speak up. Space in my life is valuable, and if you want to occupy a portion of that space you better rise the f*ck up, because I no longer have time, energy, or f*cks to waste on takers, manipulators, or liars. If showing you my boundary freaks you out or makes you feel I am demanding or needy - there is the damn door.
Friend, choose to find joy in uncertainty - in the unknown, anxious, scary, frightening moments. The ones in which you're uncertain how it will all end up choose to find joy.
Friend, this is the type of relationship we should strive for. One that can grow as we do. One that expands and evolves with us. One that never stops finding joy. One that encourages us along our evolution. One that gives us space grow as an individual. Someone who can be a home in which we will always feel safe, secure, and comfortable to be who we want to be. Who we are meant to be.
So, friend, if you ever find yourself in these dark moments - the ones you're not sure you can navigate through to the other side - please have faith in yourself and, even though you can't see it yet, the happiness that awaits you.
Don't wait to feel loved, desired, or wanted. Because before you know it, time will have gone by and all you'll have done is waited for someone who was never worth this wait, and now that time is wasted and squandered on someone undeserving.
Always, Your Trusted Friend
