Love, just like our own growth, evolves and matures over time. There is the honeymoon stage. This is the stage where everything seems perfect, carefree, and fun. You're infatuated and smitten, and everything seems and feels perfect. When many people think about 'falling in love', this is the stage that they are thinking about. When… Continue reading The Stages of Love
How beautiful to be in a constant state of new beginnings. Did you forget? Did you forget that you get to go through the chrysalis stage again and again and again over the course of your life? To change from one state to another just like the butterfly, albeit maybe not as visibly obvious. The… Continue reading New Beginnings
If we are looking to other people, places, things, or experiences to bring us happiness, peace, joy, and love we will always end up disappointed and let down. While all of these things, particularly our relationships with others, have great potential to enrich our lives in numerous ways, none of these things can ultimately offer… Continue reading Love Cannot Rescue
Photo by Malachi Brooks on Unsplash We live lives full to the brim with various events and doings, but only a handful of them are mile markers. Events that mark a significant period of time, events that veer us off course, and - if we were a house - these are the ones that gut us down to… Continue reading Mile Markers
If you don't love yourself and feel wholly worthy as you are, this is the evidence. These are the landmines you're planting your relationships. The doubts, the questioning, the need for validation, and for someone else to be responsible for your emotional regulation. I know, because I used to plant them and then be surprised when they would erupt in my face.
Opening yourself up to something new can be scary, whatever that 'new' might be. It's easy to get stuck in comfort and what is known and familiar. While I do think that there is something valuable in being able to be content in life, I also think that it is equally valuable to grow and… Continue reading Comfort Zones & Disappointment
I've gotten used to the voice in my head, the mean girl who tells me I'm not good enough. Not thin enough. Not smart enough. Not financially stable enough. Not pretty enough. Not feminine enough. Not enough. There has been a perpetual bar in my mind that I've tried to elevate myself beyond by working… Continue reading Introducing My Inner Voice
There have been many endings in my life that initially felt cataclysmic. Not getting into the college I'd dreamed of attending. Break-ups with lovers that I'd believed would last forever. Jobs I'd applied for that seemed a perfect fit passed me over. All things I wrapped my hope and vision of my future around that… Continue reading It’s Just a Detour
Photo by Aaron Burden on Unplash Someone recently asked me about a past experience, one that for a long time I had carried a great deal of shame about, one in which I often sat in judgment. I thought that I should have done something differently or known better. It struck me that to sit… Continue reading To Bloom
Photo by Christopher Windus on Unsplash Of the 95% of people who believe that they are self-aware, only 10% of people actually are. On my own journey of wellness, introspection, and self-awareness I remember hearing this quote by Tasha Eurich in a TED talk. Her findings came down to one very important distinction between those who really were… Continue reading The Mind Trap
