If you don't love yourself and feel wholly worthy as you are, this is the evidence. These are the landmines you're planting your relationships. The doubts, the questioning, the need for validation, and for someone else to be responsible for your emotional regulation. I know, because I used to plant them and then be surprised when they would erupt in my face.
"Dressing 'Single'" Recently I reflected on what happens when you step outside of your comfort zones to change, grow, and bloom into something new. The external result of your internal changes may be to make others uncomfortable with the new and unfamiliar version of you. There will be those that cannot continue on a mutual… Continue reading The Pull of Self Abandonment
Opening yourself up to something new can be scary, whatever that 'new' might be. It's easy to get stuck in comfort and what is known and familiar. While I do think that there is something valuable in being able to be content in life, I also think that it is equally valuable to grow and… Continue reading Comfort Zones & Disappointment
We all make mistakes, say things we don't mean, or have awkward social moments and all of these can result in embarrassment. Whether you learn at the end of the day you've had food in your teeth since your lunchtime salad or you send a scathing email to your boss instead of the co-worker you'd… Continue reading Embrace Embarrassment
With the power of our mind, we can believe that a placebo is a miracle cure and make it so. Every cell of our body is perfectly aware of our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. If the power of belief can cure ailments, think of the power it has over what you magnetize and attract? Think of how you either empower or disempower yourself with your beliefs? What we perceive, is what we will receive.
There are some people who no matter how much sunshine and rainbows you try to rain down upon them, will always see the potential impending doom and plan accordingly. Perhaps these are the people that would fair best during a zombie apocalypse, for they have already thought through to the direst of outcomes and have… Continue reading How You See the Glass
I've gotten used to the voice in my head, the mean girl who tells me I'm not good enough. Not thin enough. Not smart enough. Not financially stable enough. Not pretty enough. Not feminine enough. Not enough. There has been a perpetual bar in my mind that I've tried to elevate myself beyond by working… Continue reading Introducing My Inner Voice
There have been many endings in my life that initially felt cataclysmic. Not getting into the college I'd dreamed of attending. Break-ups with lovers that I'd believed would last forever. Jobs I'd applied for that seemed a perfect fit passed me over. All things I wrapped my hope and vision of my future around that… Continue reading It’s Just a Detour
Photo by Klara Kulikova on Unsplash Give yourself permission to let go. When I think of letting go, friend, I think of two ways in which one can release. Some things we grasp hold tightly because we know once we let go, once we stop trying, grasping, or clinging - whatever is in our grasp will disappear or… Continue reading Give Yourself Permission
Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash Friend, have you ever found yourself in a situation where you're bargaining with your emotions or feel as though whatever you're feeling doesn't deserve space? Late last week I was angry, sad, and hurt. I told myself that I had no business experiencing these emotions and that I was being crazy. Then… Continue reading Emotions Deserve Space
