As more and more people embrace the importance of drawing boundaries, a distinct difference is emerging between setting boundaries and exerting control. It's easy to confuse the two, and honestly, it can be tempting to resort to control as a means of self-protection. The distinction between boundaries and control is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.… Continue reading Boundaries vs. Control
Today, I want to delve into an idea that has been on my mind lately - the power of authenticity in relationships. It's an interesting paradox: when we're not actively seeking a romantic connection or striving to win someone over, we often find ourselves attracting people to us effortlessly. But the moment we start looking,… Continue reading The Power of Being Yourself
I can't help but wonder about the complexities of identity. Who we are is not always easy to define, and our sense of self can be shaped by a multitude of factors. But as we navigate the waters of identity, there is one aspect that often goes overlooked -- the relationship with ourselves. How we… Continue reading Identity
It's not fine, but it'll be okay. There was something so reassuring and affirming about hearing those words. Countless times throughout the day we are asked how we are and many of us respond automatically with those simple two words, "I'm fine." Or, how many times have we been treated in ways that are the… Continue reading It’s Not Fine, But It’ll Be Okay
If you don't love yourself and feel wholly worthy as you are, this is the evidence. These are the landmines you're planting your relationships. The doubts, the questioning, the need for validation, and for someone else to be responsible for your emotional regulation. I know, because I used to plant them and then be surprised when they would erupt in my face.
"Dressing 'Single'" Recently I reflected on what happens when you step outside of your comfort zones to change, grow, and bloom into something new. The external result of your internal changes may be to make others uncomfortable with the new and unfamiliar version of you. There will be those that cannot continue on a mutual… Continue reading The Pull of Self Abandonment
Photo by Fuu J on Unsplash Stop settling, friend. Stop settling for almost, just about, close enough, and what ifs. Stop shoving your dreams, wishes, desires, and needs aside for something that leaves you yearning and desiring more. For something that doesn't quite scratch the itch because you're afraid that this is all that there… Continue reading Almost and Just About
One of the most basic needs we have as human beings is connection. We want to know and be known. Not just for how we make others feel, but for who we are - deep inside.
Instead of seeing others outside your path as potential teachers and eye openers, they are often looked at with skepticism and judgement. We develop an us/them mentality, labeling them as 'other'. The side effects of this us/them mentality is that it gets converted into the idea of good versus bad, right versus wrong, the hero versus the villain.
Relationships are deeply personal. What I do want to point out, though, is that not everyone you cross paths with will be for you or you for them and, just maybe, if we try to think of it similar to a tomato we won't try to force it, explain it, or understand it.
