It's not fine, but it'll be okay. There was something so reassuring and affirming about hearing those words. Countless times throughout the day we are asked how we are and many of us respond automatically with those simple two words, "I'm fine." Or, how many times have we been treated in ways that are the… Continue reading It’s Not Fine, But It’ll Be Okay
If you don't love yourself and feel wholly worthy as you are, this is the evidence. These are the landmines you're planting your relationships. The doubts, the questioning, the need for validation, and for someone else to be responsible for your emotional regulation. I know, because I used to plant them and then be surprised when they would erupt in my face.
"Dressing 'Single'" Recently I reflected on what happens when you step outside of your comfort zones to change, grow, and bloom into something new. The external result of your internal changes may be to make others uncomfortable with the new and unfamiliar version of you. There will be those that cannot continue on a mutual… Continue reading The Pull of Self Abandonment
If you wish to earn her, You must meet her. Find her soul and capture her there.
When you're able to truly tap into your own desires, wants, and power it can initially feel uncomfortable, selfish, and can be laden in guilt. At least, this is how it is feeling for me. So many of my patterns involve me considering and putting others' thoughts, feelings, and desires ahead of my own, so… Continue reading Pattern Breaking
Ignoring a broken bone doesn't fix it. If left untreated the problem only gets worse and leads to complications and more pain and suffering. The same is true of our internal injuries. Tend them as tenderly, if not more so, than a broken bone. Perhaps, like a broken bone, if given this intentional space the heart can heal just as strong - if not more so - as before the breaking?
I have placed my self worth, like a gift, into the hands of others assuming that if someone else found me desirable, lovable, admirable, and attractive then that must be true.
Photo by Fuu J on Unsplash Stop settling, friend. Stop settling for almost, just about, close enough, and what ifs. Stop shoving your dreams, wishes, desires, and needs aside for something that leaves you yearning and desiring more. For something that doesn't quite scratch the itch because you're afraid that this is all that there… Continue reading Almost and Just About
We all crave intimacy, and yet it’s the scariest thing in the world to receive for it requires vulnerability. Vulnerability — my friend — demands that we give up control. It means that we allow ourselves the space to be raw and open.
"My only love sprung from my only hate." We are groomed to accept toxic love. Perhaps this started with the story of Romeo and Juliet, star-crossed lovers who were doomed to death at the onset? For whatever reason, the stories we tell and are attracted to affirm these types of love stories. Romeo and Juliet… Continue reading Toxic Love
