No one can show up 100% of the time, there is no such thing as perfection, or of even being the best version of yourself all of the time. To have this expectation placed upon you either externally or internally doesn't show respect for the fact that there are ebbs and flows. If the moon can be allowed to wane and wax, be full or new, so can I.
There is a wonderful feeling in calling people and things into your life which encourage you to bloom. But, what happens when you feel yourself starting to wither and the signs arrive telling you that it's time to let something go?
To be loved by someone who looks at me with pride and amazement, whose hands have an irresistible urge to touch and caress me, whose love is so clear and tangible that I am left with no doubts, and am thus able to live without the fear of rejection, or of not being good enough — because with every look and touch I'm told; You're special, I choose you.
One of the most basic needs we have as human beings is connection. We want to know and be known. Not just for how we make others feel, but for who we are - deep inside.
Life can feel sometimes like you are facing a fire breathing dragon with nothing to defend yourself with. You're forced to stand and take the brunt force of the fury of the beast full on. Miraculously, though, when the fire is spent, you're still standing.
Don't turn those people meant to be in your life to teach you a lesson turn into a lifetime.
Often, however, we see our emotions as triggers and - instead of pausing to look under the hood and taking the opportunity to delve deeper - we become reactionary, defensive, and/or avoidant.
It is time to commit to asking for what I want, speaking my needs, and drawing clear boundaries while ignoring the distortions caused by fears, insecurities, and the stories that have held me back.
Life has a way of engulfing and overwhelming us - but if you have learned to trust yourself and who you are, THAT - my friend - is your life preserver.
Life will balance back out again and you will go through worse pain and you'll need this experience as absolutely necessary and it will become a part of who you are. So, take a long look and whether you like it or not, figure out who you are as a unique person.
Always, Your Trusted Friend
